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10 Questions Guys Ask Before Popping The Question

• November 25, 2016
• by Tracey Lyles

By guest blogger Joseph Mercado, Customer Experience Manager at Robbins Brothers Woodland Hills.

10 Questions Guys Ask Before Popping The Question
Here it comes gentlemen, a day of reckoning when we finally decide that it’s time to hang up those raggedy old cleats, retire the number and live a life of single’s retirement. The days of playing the field have come to an end. Because who in their right mind wants to do what they want, whenever they want and however they want to do it?! Now I’m going to ask you to kindly [insert foot] into mouth, because are you freaking nuts?! What were you thinking?

Well, luckily for you I’m here to let you in on a little secret. So, come in closer. No, a little bit closer. Are you ready? BACHELORHOOD SUCKS!! Let me give you some words of encouragement and provide you with a little insight from a man who vowed to never be tied down. The days of stale pizza, meaningless flings and week long hangovers are overrated.

When you finally decide to put your big boy pants on, here are some thoughts that might cross your mind before popping the big question. Let’s go through them together.

1. What am I thinking? – Honestly, I’m thinking about “Whats for dinner?” Focus man! What are you really thinking? I’m thinking that I’m starting to really freak out. Well, with a billion and one things racing through your mind all at once, the thought of getting engaged is like getting in the ring with Mike Tyson for one whole round.  So allow yourself a moment to take a breath and think back to the day you first met her. The way she looked, that infectious giggle she shared with her friends at the other side of the bar, that moment when she looked up and you both finally locked eyes. That moment she seemed so foreign and so familiar all at the same time, as if you had known her your entire life. Tell me what did that feel like? That’s what you were thinking when you decided to make this woman your wife. So here are some words of wisdom from the great Beyonce–just “Put a ring on it.”
2. Does her family like me? – What you really need to ask yourself is “Does her father want to secretly kill me in my sleep?” The answer to that question is probably yes. So make sure those Lakers tickets he’s been talking about just so happen to end up in his possession. But seriously, a woman’s father plays a major role in her life. I’m sure you’ve already been thinking of ways to spend some quality time with dad, man to man.
3. Is she really the one? Are you the one who probably left the toilet seat up? Of course she’s the one. If she is supportive, nurturing and brings things out of you that you never thought were even remotely possible on your own, then the answer is irrevocably yes.
4. What’s my life going to be like? In other words you’re asking if you’ll ever be able to have another brotastic voyage, right? Let’s start with this–if she had kept you from Sunday night football with the boys, would you even be here right now having this conversation? I didn’t think so. But I can assure you that your bros will be making fun of you for the rest of your existence–if and when she decides to buy you both matching jerseys with ‘MY BAE’ on the back of it. Other than being the bud of your friends jokes every Sunday for the rest of your life, it isn’t too bad.
5. What’s her life going to look like? It’s going to be incredible. She has free access to all your sweaters and sweatpants. She possibly couldn’t ask for more. You might be thinking “sweatpants all the time? Well what am I going to where?” Sorry brother your clothes are no longer your clothes so get used to it. But make sure to plan a nice day out once in a while and give her a reason to really get dolled up for you.
6. Does she know what I’m up to? Of course she does, you have it written all over your face, so set off the panic alarms because she’s on to you! I’m just teasing, but make sure you try to keep the chatter to a minimum when telling all of your friends and family. Also don’t get super distant all of a sudden, because women have a radar for these types of things. If you’re distant that means something is up and she will probe to find out exactly what it is that’s bothering you.
7. What kind of ring should I get her? If you’re dating a modern day millennial she probably has a Pinterest board with your whole lives planned out already. If you’re comfortable enough with the thought of shopping for the engagement ring together, this is a great way to get some serious insight into what she may want. She gets to pick the ring of her dreams and you’ve saved yourself months of snooping around trying to figure it out. It’s actually pretty cool to see her face light up when she finds “The ring.” You want to think Harry Potter, when he finally finds the right wand. That’s cool! On the other hand if you’re going to surprise her which is equally great, see if she’s left any magazines open, web pages or even feel free to solicit her best friend. A classic solitaire ring is always going to be a hit. Just remember this important truth: whatever you decide to get her she will love. Why? Because it’s the meaning behind the ring that gives it all the magic.
8. Where do I hide this thing? A great place to keep it would be a safety deposit box as you are the only one who can access it. If that’s not an option your parents might be willing to keep it in their safe at home. Other than that it’s time to get creative. Women have a nose for diamond rings that are hidden in a home. So be sure to place it somewhere safe, out of sight and please don’t hide it so well that you can’t find it on the big day.
9. How should I propose? Whatever you decide, make sure that it’s personal and full of meaning. Don’t just hand her the ring, bro. Really put some thought into it and make sure it comes from the heart. It doesn’t have to always be super extravagant and expensive. A picnic on the beach with champagne and a good sunset normally does the trick. If you’re looking to get fancy, feel free to check the Heart Bandits blog for unique proposal ideas like flash mobs and other big plans.
10. Am I a man of my word? This is probably going to be the most important question you can ask yourself. Are you a man of your word? If so, then remember that you are making a promise to always protect and cherish this gift that has come into your life. Make sure that you always stay true to her and be sure to give her all of you. I get it, vulnerability is not your strong suit, but there is no shame in allowing yourself to love and be loved wholeheartedly. After all you deserve to be happy. Now relax – you got this!

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Tracey Lyles

A hopeful romantic and enthusiastic UCLA grad, Tracey serves as Director of Marketing and Public Relations for Robbins Brothers. For leisure she enjoys shopping, dancing, hosting parties for family & friends and staying abreast of the latest celebrity news.

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