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7 Essential Tips On How To Propose

• July 3, 2018
• by Jazmin Buffington

If you’re reading this, chances are you’re in the process of asking a particular question to the love of your life. So, let me start by saying- cheers to you, my friend. This is a monumental moment in your relationship and a story you’ll tell your friends, family and possibly your children, one day. No, I’m not trying to scare you, just keeping you well informed. As a veteran engagement expert and realist romantic, I know how overwhelming this experience may be, and I’m here to assuage your fears with a few essential tips on how to propose.

Have Something to Present

The Knot recently conducted a survey that asked more than 19,000 couples what they considered to be the biggest mistake when proposing marriage. The #1 answer, “asking empty-handed.” Yes, the commitment to spend the rest of your lives together is worth more than jewelry, but the truth is, the engagement may not feel 100% real without the act of slipping something on their finger. Plus, you’ll need to have something to show your loved ones once you share the great news. If you’re uncertain of what style to choose, propose with an heirloom piece, a diamond solitaire ring or band, and shop for a ring together afterward.

Asking for Their Hand

Is asking for “permission” a dated tradition? Perhaps. But do you want to test that theory? You know your partner better than anyone else, so you know whether this holds value. Note that I placed the word “permission” in quotes because you are grown individuals and do not require Mom and Dad to say “Yes.” But more importantly, to obtain their blessing.

Keep it Quiet

Call me conservative, but a proposal should be kept under wraps until you’re down on one knee. Yes, a few key individuals will be in the loop, but be cognizant of who you tell. The last thing you want is Uncle Billy blabbing to loud mouth, Cousin Lee, who shares the news with the whole family. The fam may do an excellent job of keeping it from your soon to be fiancé, but the last thing he/she wants is to be the last one to know about it.

Location is Everything

Despite common misconceptions, a proposal has more significance when the location holds sentimental value to the couple. If your partner hasn’t explicitly voiced the desire for an over-the-top, elaborate marriage proposal – it likely isn’t necessary. Instead, select a location where a memorable moment occurred; a favorite date spot, the setting of your first “I love you,” your first home together or a scenic vacation spot. Just be true to you as a couple, and it will be romantic.

Timing is Key

Be sensitive to the surrounding circumstances that can influence your partner’s mood. If she/he is stressed out from deadlines at work, has the flu, or sad because Sparky, the family dog, is missing, it may not be the best time. Yes, the ring may be burning a hole in your pocket, but you’ve already waited this long, what’s another couple of days?

Write Down What You Want to Say

Before you kneel down before them, put down what you want to say on a piece of paper. Think of crucial moments when you realized that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with your significant other. Then, just as you would for any speech, practice saying it out loud, so it sounds natural and not rehearsed. Many people think they can wing it, but winging can go awry. If you forget everything you practiced the day of, speak from the heart; vulnerability is a beautiful thing.

Plan a Celebration

You’re engaged. Finally. This moment belongs to the both of you. It is one of the most intimate experiences you’ll share with another human, so make it last. Savor it. Consider orchestrating an evening or fun-filled day for the two of you after the “YES!” Once you’ve taken it all in, then you can invite relatives and friends over to cheers to your love. This is the calm before the storm- wedding planning is no joke, and there is no need to rush.

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Jazmin Buffington

In her previous role as a Customer Experience Manager at Robbins Brothers, Jazmin helped thousands of customers find the engagement and wedding rings that were right for them. As the current Community Manager, she brings her expertise to engagement ring buyers everywhere. When Jazmin is not at the office, she can be found in her kitchen creating new recipes, traveling or practicing hot yoga with her husband.

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