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5 Deal Breakers To Ditch If You Want To Find True Happiness

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By Todd Carlson, Creative Manager for Robbins Brothers

When is a deal breaker not a deal breaker?
(Or…are the limits you put on who you are willing to date keeping you from finding happiness?)

So, I’ve been tasked with talking about deal breakers as if I know anything about them. Well, maybe I do because I am sure I have done things, said things and just plain been things that were absolute deal breakers to many women. So it goes. We all have boundaries or unique tastes, or social perceptions that guide (or limit) our love life possibilities. I’m not here to convince anyone to change their “love criteria” or values or criticize what you like. Just prompting you to take a look at things and wonder…hmm… “why do I limit myself?”

Of course this does not apply if you are happy ensconced in the relationship of your dreams. But if you are single, making repeated “mistakes” or have just plain given up on dating, let’s weigh some variables that may broaden your approach to who is, and who is not acceptable dating material.

So let’s look at some typical limitations that some of us put on ourselves. Some of these areas are personal, some social and some cultural. All of us have innate attractions or dislikes that cannot be explained – nothing wrong with those. People also tend to date where they are most comfortable. There’s a reason that birds of feather flock together – and that’s cool. It’s created beautiful cultures. But if your dating circle of birds is not working for you – it may be time to get the flock out of there.

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1. Ethnicity–Really? I’m going to start there?! Well, why not? I know it’s a big, semi-post-racial world we live in and this should be a given. Inter-racial and inter-ethnic dating is nothing new, and it’s pretty cool. But some of us may have hard-wired images in our mind. “I never pictured myself dating/marrying a…” Sound familiar? Well, some people in that group have thought the same about you too. Preferring your own group is maybe, somewhat, kind-of natural. But completely taking other races off the radar of love? Well that’s sort of silly. We all have hearts and we all seek love and want to share love. In fact, it’s THE thing that we all have most in common! Guess what else? You may learn something interesting, have fun in new ways, and develop a greater appreciation for other groups. And, you might just fall in love…let the world deal with it.

2. Body Type–Oh boy. Another powder keg. So that girl at work that you get along with so well is a bit of a chubby-chub? That guy you know from school that is so hilarious – he can barely see over his steering wheel right? Off limits? So how much of your identity is wrapped up in your date’s physical identity? I’m not saying date the ugliest person you can find, but if you find you REALLY like someone, and they REALLY like you then your souls are probably connecting a bit. There’s something stimulating and attractive about that isn’t there? And if the minds and souls are connecting, it’s somewhat likely it’s your limits that are keeping things from moving forward. Maybe take a little chance on a bigger girl, or a big chance on a smaller guy (see what I did there?). Yes, there are chubby guys, skyscraper girls, skinny folk, flat-chested ladies, dudes with big noses and all sorts of other physical characteristics you might not consider ideal. Time to move beyond the (literally) superficial? It’s up to you.

3. Income Level–It’s an expensive world out there and the good old DINK (double income, no kids) couple seems to have it most easy – and maybe they do. There’s nothing wrong with success. But for some it’s not all about success. It might be about balance, or personal growth, or artistic development. They may not have the car, the house or the clothes you might idealize. Time to check the materialism gene and how important it is to you. Obviously no one wants an unemployable failure. Likewise, there should be some ambition; he should want to share more with you than a bag of cheese-puffs on a couch in his mom’s basement. She should also contribute to, as well as dispose of, income – and have dreams and goals of her own. But how high is high enough? Some of the sweetest, kindest, most honest, loving people are middle class (or even lower!). Shocking I know. If your nose is in the air and you can’t see them, you may just walk by the love of your life. At least you’ll have that fancy handbag, or that expensive pair of brogues to keep you warm at night. Oops…sorry, I told myself no sarcasm. Darn it.

4. Education level–What percentage of Americans graduated college in 1940? About 12%. So, were our grandparents a bunch of dummies? Hardly. Now, times have changed and a college degree helps a ton in getting by and getting ahead. But it’s not absolutely necessary. Brad Pitt. Steve Jobs. Oprah. Walt Disney. None of them made it through college. So – be a little bit flexible. After all, intelligence and education level are not the same thing. People can be interesting and talented and successful without the diploma. While I do totally support people getting all the education they desire, some people just need less than others. Now if we’re talking about someone who dropped out of 8th grade, or never got a GED, I might think twice. See even I have some limits. Okay – I’ll work on it.

5. Religion–Yikes. All right, this area is VERY personal and you should follow your own convictions. But (yes, there’s a but) is being of the same religion or spiritual thinking an absolute for you? Fine if it is – but not so surprisingly on a planet of 7 billion people, there are mixed-belief couples of every combination and they love each other deeply. Yes, they may lack in sharing something very important with each other, but that doesn’t preclude or nullify the love they share. Agnostics love Christians. Hindus love Buddhists. Jews love Atheists. Some people of the same faith even love each other. (Yes, that’s a joke.) See the thing in common here? LOVE. Now, if this feels like a compromise or betrayal to you, stick to your beliefs. But (again!) if you can be tolerant and accepting of your partner’s beliefs and they can be tolerant and accepting of yours – love might just be the bond you share most strongly and that’s not a bad thing at all.

Wow. So, when I started writing this I thought of the subjects I should avoid and now I have written only about those subjects. I went a bit further than deal-breakers like a pretty girl chewing with her mouth open, or an otherwise cool dude being a Justin Bieber fan (those things cannot be forgiven). Instead it led me to these areas that are somewhat taboo.

If your deal breakers include wrong color, wrong weight, wrong job, wrong accent, wrong beliefs, wrong politics – your pool of possibilities just might be smaller than necessary. If you broaden your circle, you will increase the chances that you will find love. Simple math.

As for “birds of a feather” there is nothing wrong with Eagles dating Eagles and Emus dating Emus. In fact it’s pretty great. But, on a personal level, if you’re an Eagle and dating other Eagles isn’t working out for you, you might want to walk over to that neighboring watering hole and say hello to that cute little Emu. Your hearts might just take flight.

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Bloggers and Style Experts Review Top Ten Engagement Rings from Robbins Brothers

Just in time for proposal season, the top lifestyle and fashion bloggers from The Bridal Bar, Houston Style Magazine and Hollywood Life share riveting reviews of Robbins Brothers’ Fall engagement ring picks.

Simon G. Halo Diamond Engagement Ring with Rose Gold Accents (sku 0398140 at www.RobbinsBrothers.com)

Simon G. Halo Diamond Engagement Ring with Rose Gold Accents (sku 0398140 at www.RobbinsBrothers.com)

Los Angeles, CAOctober 23, 2014 – Today Robbins Brothers, The Engagement Ring Store announced its Blogger & Style Expert Ring Reviews, which includes many of the retailer’s most popular and sought after engagement ring styles this Fall. Ranging from the three-stone ring with princess cut diamonds to halo designs with rose gold accents, some of your favorite style experts weigh in on their favorite engagement ring bling.

The featured engagement rings include a radiant-cut halo setting from Kirk Kara, a favorite of Mimi LaRue, Houston radio host and creator of Dripping Sexy. “The radiant center stone complemented by the parade of sparkly diamonds surrounding it is the perfect combination for a YES. It’s a fairytale romance between delicious and beautiful. The two had a love child.”

Harmony Walton, founder and editor of The Bridal Bar prefers the Candlelight Collection’s yellow diamond cushion-cut ring. “I love the sophisticated and standout look of a yellow diamond, it says something about the spirit of a woman. The ribbon twist white gold double halo ring is a great blend of vintage detailing and modern color, to make it timeless and on trend at the same time. Swoon!”

Jennifer Chan from The Fabulous File, who prefers subtle but classy, was equally excited to share her take on the rose gold Tacori engagement ring. “The rose gold setting flatters all skin tones, while the larger-than-life halo design is chic and tasteful, and just so happens to be a favorite among celebrities—and for good reason!”

Not only women have an appreciation for fashionably elegant engagement rings. Russ Weakland, the senior LA reporter at Hollywood Life shares his choice. “With the impact that this Divine 2.5 carat princess cut ring shows, it is proof that you are intending to make a moment that will last a lifetime. If love could be bottled up in a ring, this would be the one.”

“The Blogger & Style Expert Ring Reviews is our fun way, through the eyes of fashion experts, to present a variety of options to our customers who are planning a marriage proposal this time of year,” said Shannon Daly, director of jewelry for Robbins Brothers. “This year we saw an increased interest in rose gold, blue sapphires, yellow diamonds, and the vintage halo remains popular for those who prefer a big look.”

For more information on the Blogger Ring Reviews, please visit http://www.robbinsbrothers.com/top-pick-engagement-rings.ring.

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3 Freaky Halloween Marriage Proposal Ideas

By guest blogger Mark Estrada, Robbins Brothers Marketing Assistant

October is not known for being the most romantic month; however that didn’t stop the Pumpkin King from finding the next Mrs. Skellington and it shouldn’t stop you. So if you’re into it, here are some Halloween proposal ideas to make sure your proposal doesn’t end up as the Nightmare before Christmas.

Haunted Maze Proposal
You know her better than anyone else, and a mischievous smile has started to curl your lips. The idea here is to set up a haunted maze just for her, and right when you have her where you want her jump out and slam that ghoulish knee to the ground! Hopefully the slap is met with a follow up kiss and embrace, if not you probably knew better.

Photo courtesy HuffingtonPost.com

Photo courtesy HuffingtonPost.com

Trick or Treat
Do not give the ring to a complete stranger and expect to ever see it again. Now that we have that disclaimer out of the way, consider giving the ring to a complete stranger or just someone your potential fiancée doesn’t know. After you’ve set up the proposal proceed to trick or treat ending up at this stranger’s house. When the unsuspecting ring bearer answers the door, have your girl say “trick or treat” and have the person hand your girlfriend the ring. When she turns to you for an explanation she will see you poised and ready for her answer.

Photo courtesy of TheDailyMeal.com

Photo courtesy of TheDailyMeal.com

Grow old with me
In the spirit of Bad Grandpa, minus academy award nominated makeup, consider dressing up as old folks with your lady. I’m talking about grey wigs and horn rimmed glasses while the two of you enjoy whatever Halloween festivities are available. Once the day is done and coming to a close, pull your “Old Lady” aside, avoid breaking a hip and ask her to grow old with you.

Photo courtesy of HuffingtonPost.com

Photo courtesy of HuffingtonPost.com

Scary, sweet or just plain unexpected, if you plan to propose on All Hallows’ Eve, make sure to share the experience here or pass your ideas on for the other Halloweenies out there looking for a Pumpkin Queen.

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10 Relationship Deal Breakers You Should Reconsider

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Photo courtesy of Pinterest.com

By guest blogger Natasha Burton

We all have those non-negotiable standards when it comes to relationships—habits, qualities, characteristics, details, and so on that we will simply not stand for. However, it’s important to reevaluate these from time to time in order to make sure you’re not automatically ruling out someone who could totally be husband material. What you think might be a deal breaker may actually be no big deal when it comes to Mr. Right. (As the co-author of The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags—shameless plug!—I literally wrote the book on dating deal breakers. So, you can trust me on this one.)

Now, the non-deal breakers below are simply guidelines. Only you know what qualities you’d be able to deal with and which ones you’re totally not okay with when it comes to a person you’re dating—or even considering spending your life with. But hopefully reading the points below will encourage you to be a little less picky so you don’t overlook someone who could be great for you in the long-term.

1. He’s not your usual type.
Maybe you typically fall for nerdy intellectuals or athletic jocks. But you shouldn’t let your predisposition toward one type of guy limit your selection. You never know who you might click with, after all.

2. He was late to your first date.
Okay, yes, the fact that he was late is annoying, not to mention kind of rude. But, instead of casting the guy aside at the first tiny transgression, why not give him a second chance? More often than not, mistakes like this one don’t indicate a guy’s real character.

3. He has an annoying habit.
Chewing with his mouth open, sighing audibly during movies, adjusting his boxers in public… yeah… some guys are less than couth when it comes to social graces. But these not-so-awesome habits are easily pointed out and corrected—they’re not character flaws.

4. He’s been married before.
For some, this is a totally non-negotiable deal breaker. Which is fine. But, if you think you could overlook this fact—do it. Divorced guys can be more self-aware and more eager to please than guys who have never been married. They know their flaws, understand what’s at stake in relationships, and they are more determined to make a relationship work.

5. He makes less money than you do.
Unless the guy has a complex about you out-earning him—or wants you to fund his non-ambitious existence—this should be a non-issue, especially for a woman who can take care of herself.

6. He’s shorter than you.
Just like with the “type” deal breaker, you may surprise yourself on this one, especially if you’ve only dated tall guys. In fact, a new study shows that shorter men make better husbands and have longer-lasting marriages.

7. Your friends are quick to point out his flaws.
Clearly, if your friends say they don’t like the way a guy treats you, or they have legit concerns about him—that’s probably a deal breaker. But if you get the sense that your pals are being nit-picky because they have impossible standards or they’re just jealous that you found a potential BF, you should take their criticism with a grain of salt.

8. His musical tastes are…questionable at best.
Look, two people rarely have the same taste in everything, from movies, to TV, to music. Sure, he may love heavy metal, while you’re a total pop diva, but that doesn’t mean you can’t both groove together by finding common ground (Jack Johnson, perhaps?).

9. He’s not affectionate on social media.
Many women want a guy who will write romantic status updates and wall posts, or write lovey-dovey captions on Instagram photos tagged with #myboo. But most guys are not so into this. Don’t take a man’s lack of social love as a sign that he’s just not into you. He’s probably just not that into broadcasting his feelings to everyone he’s ever known.

10. His apartment is super messy.
While you won’t want to date a guy who’s a total slob, you have to understand that a guy who lives like a bachelor is going to, well, live like a bachelor. Just because he’s messy in his own place doesn’t mean he has no concept of how to clean up. Besides, your super girly comforter and the stuffed animals on your bed don’t mean that you’re immature, right? It goes both ways.

Natasha Burton is a relationship author, freelance writer and editor.

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Tacori Rings in Fall with a Fab Trunk Show in Orange County

Celebrate Fall with a Gorgeous Oval Solitaire Engagement Ring from Tacori's Full Bloom collection.

Celebrate Fall with a Gorgeous Oval Solitaire Engagement Ring from Tacori’s Full Bloom collection. Sku 0393592 at RobbinsBrothers.com

It’s no secret that our stores are known around town for throwing the best, most informative, fun and engaging parties, ranging from “Girls’ Night Out” to exclusive trunk shows with the industry’s top designers.

The latest soiree happened at Robbins Brothers Fullerton where TACORI took over with an exciting and inspiring two-day trunk show filled with current and future Tacori Girls, and the men who love them. Let’s just say everyone browsed, shopped and drooled over the designer’s gorgeous engagement rings and fashion jewelry until their hearts were content!

Lights, Camera, Sparkly Action! Let the Fun Begin! #TacoriGirl

Tacori Circle Pendant and Diamond Ring at Robbins Brothers Fullerton

Tacori Circle Pendant and Diamond Ring at Robbins Brothers Fullerton

Tacori Fashion Ring & Pendant

Tacori Fashion Ring & Pendant

Tacori Ring & Bracelet. Perfect Match.

Tacori Ring & Bracelet. Perfect Match.

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Laura, our customer experience manager models the most electrifying teal Tacori fashion jewelry set.

Tacori Fashion Jewelry in Teal

Tacori Teal

Work Hard, Play Hard.

Engrossed by the festivities, our employees take a moment for Selfies & other photo opps.

Engrossed by the festivities, our employees take a moment for Selfies & other photo opps.

Some of the men who love Tacori Girls? Our staff!

Some of the men who love Tacori Girls? Our staff!

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Sweets & Treats

Sweets & Treats

Fun & Games: Can you guess the number of jelly beans?

Fun & Games: Can you guess the number of jelly beans?

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