Can I Wear My Wedding Ring…Before My Wedding?


By Natasha Burton


As of this week, I’ve been engaged for a year. And I still have a while to go — seven months and change until the big day arrives. To some people, this might seem like a ridiculously long engagement but, for me, having just less than 18 months to plan every detail has been a relief. At this point, I really just have to finalize the menu, go with my fiancé to get his suit, and, well, show up.

Yes, even with more than half a year to go, we already have our wedding bands. (Which the lovely David Lee at the Woodland Hills store helped us pick out, I must add!)

The rings are sitting in their snap-close boxes, in their Robbins Brothers’ boxes, in our shared closet on a shelf that holds the rest of my jewelry and sunglasses. I know these specifics not only because I’m slightly concerned about misplacing our rings with so much time before our wedding but also because I can’t stop thinking about them.

You guys, I am dying to wear my wedding ring.

I know, I know, I’m going to wear it for the rest of my life so what’s the rush, right? And I’m sure it’s some sort of bad luck to wear your wedding ring before the ceremony. But the thought of my delicate, pretty pave band confined to its dark box-within-a-box makes me want to rescue it from its lonesome existence and slide it right on my ring finger.

Plus, I’d love to be able to wear it just out of convenience: My solitaire engagement ring isn’t the best thing to wear to the gym or while making dinner. My more subtle wedding ring? Much better.

Once a day, I’ll take it out and try it on just to, you know, remind myself how it looks on my finger. I know that, once it’s on, it’s on forever. And maybe it’s because my fiancé and I have been engaged for what feels like a long time now, but I’m pretty ready for forever to start already.

Natasha Burton

Natasha Burton

Relationship expert Natasha Burton is the author of three books: 101 Quizzes for Couples, 101 Quizzes for BFFs, and The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags. When she's not writing, she's likely doing yoga, baking, or watching The Bachelor.
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2 thoughts on “Can I Wear My Wedding Ring…Before My Wedding?

  1. Do not do it. I wanted to so bad, but it will take away from when you come back from the wedding and everyone is like let me see you set!!!!!!!! I would sometimes try mine on at home, but I am so glad my husband wouldnt let me, I loved everyone asking let me see when I got back from the wedding and honeymoon!

  2. Do NOT where your wedding ring before you are married. It is the symbolism of an act and it MEANS something, something specific and it hasn’t happened yet. HOWEVER…

    Doesn’t mean you can’t get another engagement ring, In any form or simplicity that you like. It can totally represent the engagement. But DON’T do it yourself. That doesn’t work either. Just tell your partner that the engagement ring that you love, the one you want forever just doesn’t work in all contexts, And that y’all need to get another one that works differently and means the same thing. And shop for it. Don’t get all crazy here. Something simpler for the gym or when your doing electrical work, maybe considering it your day to day. On the correct finger representing the correct stuff.

    Don’t wear your wedding ring before you are married.

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